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Get outside when you need it

Get outside when you need it Photo credit: Noémie @surlarouteavec_4
October 18 2022
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Text written by Noémie @surlarouteavec_4

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Day of cleaning, day of homework, day without project.

There are days when the chaos of a home is hard to tolerate. It’s often in these
days when children are more tired, less tolerant and we need AIR.

 

At times like this, I often think we all need to get out. One might think that this is not necessarily a good idea or that it does not try to reward with a way out the bad behaviors of the house, but at the same time, the change of environment really helps to put everyone back in a different rhythm.

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The departure

I always bring with me water, snacks and diaper changing essentials.

When I leave home, sometimes it is chaos. I am the mother of several children after all. Sometimes it screams so it doesn’t sit in the car and tie up, sometimes it bangs into the hallway by putting on his coat. In short, it is no better here than elsewhere. In those moments, I decide to go out anyway and often go even further than our usual environment to have the attraction of novelty.

My mantra is, the worst thing that can happen is that we come home. We go, we go, and usually we have a fabulous time because we’re all more aware of the present moment outside of our task list and our habits.

For this to work, we also need to connect to the needs of our children. We have to marvel so that they too can realize that it is fabulous to be outside and enjoy it. The little ones are often better than us. It is sometimes difficult with children who are a little older, but it is enough to be «overnthousiaste» to bring them to the present moment.

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And if it goes wrong?

"I keep going and it will eventually go away?"
"I’ll keep going anyway."
"We go home and that’s life."
"I get in a ball and cry?"

You may be surprised, but I would have left. But why? In fact, I sincerely think that “discipline” or threats, because generally, yes, when we ourselves don’t feel at the top of our form and children do anything, it goes in all directions and it is neither benevolent nor constructive.

I also think that as a mom who often goes out alone with her children, I need to put my limits. Saying “no” doesn’t work, so too bad, we’re going home. It’ll be better next time. I’m not threatening to say, if you don’t stop, we’re leaving! I am more in the listening mode of myself: if MY limit of pleasure is reached, I redirect us to the car, and I repack everyone and we set out again.

Sometimes it cries, it grumbles, but I sit them in the car. I close the doors and I stay outside to take a minute of deep breaths. Then we leave and listen to music.

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I think that the key to parenthood is to remember that we are humans first and that we must also be respected in this. It will be better next time. We must not keep any bitterness from all this, it is circumstantial.


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Noémie Lavallée

@surlarouteavec_4

Noémie Lavallée

Noémie Lavallée, mother of 4 .
We love adventure to escape and build memories. We are a couple who love to travel, but even more so since we have our children. Traveling through the eyes of our children is our greatest pleasure. 

Instagram: @surlarouteavec_4

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